I’m not sure if it’s because I live in the northern rivers bliss bubble, but it seems to me that more and more people know what a doula does. Ten years ago when I started ‘doula-ing’, I remember people getting confused thinking doula was my name because it certainly didn’t sound like a profession.
I’m seeing more acceptance and value placed on the role that doulas can have both in and out of the birth room. Many people know that doulas attend births, but may be less aware of the doulas role after the birth.
Postpartum doulas are also extremely helpful for new families.
It takes a village to raise a child.
I have always loved and been intrigued by the saying ‘It takes a village to raise a child’. It feels like this reality is quite tangible in Nimbin and the surrounding Northern Rivers village. We are comfortable with sharing the care of children. I am fascinated by the concept of alloparenting. This is when parental care is provided to children (not necessarily by the birth parents). It can be common in the animal kingdom and it feels like we are re-evaluating the importance of having grandparents, aunties and other family members and friends help with the raising of the children.
Alloparenting is a topic for another day!
Right now, I want to share more about what I do as a doula to help new families.
My favourite time to meet pregnant women (and their partners, if they have one) is in the second trimester. Nine months is a lovely length of time to wrap your head around birthing and parenting. In this modern technology-driven world, we have more and more information available at our fingertips. This can come with benefits but can also easily get overwhelming. What are the best books to read? Should I read any? What about watching births? How will my partner know what to do? And what about after? How different is it going to be? Will we know what to do?
As a Birthing From Within mentor, I love helping you find the answers to your deepest questions. I want people to feel well prepared so they can rise to the challenges of birth whilst feeling positive and well supported.
As a doula, I help you to feel confident and excited about birth. I go on-call around your due date and I provide continuous support during your labour and birth. If you want to be massaged for hours, I’m more than happy to provide this nurturing. It’s your birthday and you can cry if you want to. I’ll be there to hug you, cheer you on, provide reassurance and create the best birthing environment so you can welcome your baby with love and joy.
As a pregnancy masseuse, I place a lot of importance on helping you relax and feel grounded whilst also helping encourage your baby into the best position for birth. Utilising gentle stretches and knowledge of the pregnant body I can encourage you to adopt lifestyle changes that assist in balancing the body. When your body is balanced and your baby is in a good position, labour is usually quicker and easier.
I know about the importance of the ‘fourth trimester’ for families. The first few months after the birth is a critical time for babies adapting to the outside world and the mothers healing from birth and learning to feed and care for their newborn. Human babies are born very needy and require constant care. Babies love it when you can re-create the womb-like environment by holding them close and breastfeeding on demand. However this constant care can feel overwhelming at times. Enter the postpartum doula… I help new mothers feel nourished and well supported in their fourth trimester so they feel confident in nurturing their newborn.
It takes a village to raise a child… and it takes a village to nurture a new mother.